The arrival of a child is a before and after in the day to day of any couple. The children influence from the minute zero on all the decisions that are taken at home, from the furniture and the shopping cart to the holidays. But it should not be seen as something negative, since as they grow the most advisable is that they move from conditioning any activity to acquire a more participatory role.
This is considered by many experts, who for example are increasingly inclined to involve them directly in household tasks. ” It helps them to be autonomous and increases their self-esteem, it gives them confidence when facing other challenges,” says the child-youth psychologist Nuria Torrent, from the Department of Pediatrics of the Dexeus University Hospital-Quirónsalud Group in Barcelona .
The benefits are diverse, adds this expert. For example, when they are asked for help in the preparation of food, fine motor skills are worked, while with the organizational or cleaning tasks (helping with sweeping, dusting or making the bed) the gross motor skills are worked on. It also helps them create habits, organize and work as a team.
Of course, your responsibilities should be adapted gradually according to age , without wanting to go in a hurry and that the child should grow too fast, because that way we can generate the opposite effect. “Just as involving them in the home serves to reinforce their self-esteem, if we do not apply common sense and we do not give them tasks adapted to their rhythm of development we can foster a certain sense of frustration, each child has their own rhythm, ” insists this expert.
In addition, Torrent insists on not assigning some tasks or others for the mere fact of being girls or boys. The Miliki song in which a girl could not play because she had to wash, iron, sew or tend should definitely be obsolete.
“It is important to instill in children from a very young age the idea of family as a team , whose members are equally important and leaving aside any pre-established role that favors gender differentiation”, insists this expert, who encourages parents to preach with the example. “If only clean mom and only makes the purchase or throws away the garbage dad, we will not get that the following generations feel the bases of an effective equality between men and women”.
Children between 2 and 3 years old
- Organize the toys: tell them where to keep them and help them.
- Eat alone: leave your time.
- Throw things away: do it with him until he gets used to it.
- Provide us with the clothespins: if these are of colors we take advantage to reinforce the learning of the colors.
- Bring clean clothes to your room or dirty laundry to the bucket of laundry.
Children between 4 and 5 years old
- Dressing alone: prepare clothes the night before to buy time in the morning.
- Flushing: wash your face, teeth and even comb (or remove tangles).
- Put and remove the table: help him put the tablecloth.
- Feed the pet: fill the food in the pet’s bowl and let him serve it.
- Scrub dishes with supervision: You can start with the glasses and dishes and follow the adult.
Children of 6 and 7 years
- Make the bed: especially on weekends.
- Organize the desk: keep it tidy when you finish your tasks.
- Prepare your backpack: be responsible for what you should bring to school.
- Pass vacuum cleaner.
- Remove dust from furniture: especially smooth surfaces.
Children of 8 and 9 years
- Bathing alone: you can supervise that all the shampoo has been removed.
- Clean the floor.
- Caring for the pet: cleaning the cage or terrarium, brushing the dog’s hair …
- Prepare breakfast or snack: they will feel important.
- Cooking simple dishes under supervision: it’s a time to be together.
Children between 10 and 11 years old
- Clean your room: you can decide that you want to donate if you do not use it.
- Remove the pet: if you have a dog during daylight hours, you can walk it.
- Clean the garden: pick up the dried leaves, water the plants.
- Tender clothes: remove it from the washing machine and tend.
Children 12 years old and over
- Take out the garbage: at this point you already know in which container you should recycle.
- Make the purchase: you can prepare the list in advance.
- Take care of a younger brother: do babysitting if you have to go out to run errands.
- Sew: from a button to start sewing a machine hem.